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Tuesday, May 5, 2015

Day 2127

And what an amazing amazing amazing year it has been. Long story short, for now, I have become a dad. Komal and me have become proud parents of an amazing baby boy who we have named - Prish. Prish is an old english short form for Appreciation. I wanted to name him after an iconic Hollywood Film Director or an Iconic King but Komal decided otherwise. But after seeing her in nearly 12 hours of labor, i decided no one other than a mother should decide on the name of the baby. There is just so much to write and somehow I feel I just don't have that much time as I used to earlier when I started this Blog. I will try and be brief.So since my last blog entry, these are the places I visited:-

Paris, France (2nd Visit),
Amsterdam, France (2nd Visit)
Lucerne, Switzerland,
Jungfraujoch, Switzerland
Interlaken, Switzerland
Zermatt, Switzerland
Matterhorn, Switzerland
Engelberg, Switzerland,
Titlis, Switzerland,
Vaduz, Lichtenstein,
Zurich, Switzerland,
Diu, India,
Gir, India,
Rajkot, India(4th Visit)
Pondicherry, India(2nd Visit)
Agas, India
London, England (2nd Visit)
Dublin, Ireland,
Kingston, England
Nashik-Deolali, India (6th Visit)

I did so many activities.   2 of them were something I wanted to do for a very very long time. One was watching the world's longest running play - The Mousetrap (Now in its 63rd Straight year at West-End London) and the world's longest running Musical - The Phantom of the Opera (Now in its 29th Straight Year). I also worked in the amazing Camden Town office of Getty Images for 3 days and enjoyed the super cold london and even more cold and windy Dublin Weather. Most of my travel stories are documented on Facebook so do visit the pages of December and June 2014 to see the tons of pictures that have been taken.
In this period, we didnt even realize that Little Prish was technically conceived in Paris :-)
And when he was born, for around a month he was perpetually on France National Time(If at all there is such a thing).
The last few years (Before I got married in 2014) were not the most pleasant where my personal life is concerned. A Marriage and an engagement broke off. I lost my folks. I suffered through PTSD. Yes I did travel a lot, I had invaluable support from a few friends and I will be always thankful for that. But emotionally speaking, it was very distressing.  So while travelling and blogging and being with supportive friends did give a temporary support, it could never fill the void of my folks or my partner. And with 2 failed relationships behind me, I had always thought that this was the end of the road for me. And then suddenly in late of 2013, things changed and how. Ever since Komal has come in to my life (And I dont mind repeating over and over and over), my life has turned good. I travelled a lot in 2014 (Probably the most I have ever done in my life), all the legal paperwork that was pending for a long time got a closure, my job, in which I was facing some turbulent times as well, finally fell in place and I am now reporting to one of the most amazing managers in the world.
And now, I have been blessed with a son - On 8th March 2015.
He is nearly 2 months old and has always been keeping very well and so has Komal. I only hope and wish that we have a very normal life and there is no other turbulence to face.
Today, on the eve of my 36th Birthday, I look at all the years gone by. I will be entering the other side or how some people put it, the wrong side of 30. I have seen so many things, been part of so much experience that not too many 35/36 year old  person would have gone through. I could actually write Thesis for atleast 2 PhDs. Imagine this blog that I have been writing since December 2009, contains only a part of my life and yet so many incidences have been not written.A very very good friend of mine had told me, and like most of his prophecies which have come true, that my blog will serve as a purpose for releasing my emotions. And this will become less and less once I get in to a serious relationship which will culminate into a marriage. And this is exactly what has happened, I actually hope I keep writing more and more of my life through this blog till I kick the bucket. I wont say I will be as regular as I was in 2010 and 2011 but I will surely try to be more regular than 2014 (When i wrote just 1 blog).. :-)
I guess I should take leave now.
I hope to get some good rest so That I can have a great birthday tomorrow. And, I hope Gigi Buffon and his Men manage to win against Real Madrid at Home Today in the 1st Leg of the Champion's league Semi-Final. That would be an amazing birthday gift.


Monday, May 26, 2014

Day 1626

After a hiatus, I am back. Its been 201 days that I was away and so much has been changed since the time I left for my abroad trip way back in November 2013. So I visited 5 different countries (Including USA), saw my first ever football match, took my first ever cruise, went on my first jungle safari (Still couldn't see the tiger that i wanted to), did my first bungee jump, went to a superb wine-resort 250 odd km away from the city, had a nice stay at an adventure-park resort nearly 120 km away from the city, had the most tedious 6-7 months at work with certain people being given the pink slips, and most importantly, got engaged and married :)
Yes, I finally got married. After all the turmoils that I have been through my personal life, I finally got married to an amazing person - Komal.
Komal is a family friend's daughter who was introduced by my every-loving Bua (Dad's sister). Now, this Bua of mine and dad share the same birth day (Not year) and after whatever has been happening in my life, she was quite concerned that I get some closure. I remember, as kids, whenever My Bua used to come over to my home or if we used to go there, she always got us some gifts. Everytime. I dont remember a single occasion where I havent got any gifts from her. And, what better gift could I have got this time :)
Yes, there were some hiccups here too and there were some chances that I wouldnt have got engaged to Komal, but then all's well that ends well. Komal, besides being a terrific wife is also fitting the bill of my best friend and a mum like figure. Any guy would be so lucky to have her as a companion and for me, its like a 3 in one figure.
I saw so many movies in the last few months, went out for dinners, long drive, bought new clothes, and generally, my personal life couldnt have been any better. After over a year of trying, we also managed to sell off a couple of old properties and will soon buy a new one so that was also one chip off the shoulder of Scrooge and me.
Yes, the paperwork has not ceased but we are hoping it would be minimized by the end of this year.
The last 2-3 years we have been over burdened with tons of paper work and getting to sort them and manage them is a crazy task. Practically every weekend has been spent in either meeting our lawyers or accountants or working out on a deal for our property. But all this has only made us more aware of laws and how to go about things in this bureaucratic country.
I hope to be more regular with my blogs now. Till then, its back to work. 

Thursday, November 7, 2013

Day 1426

Today is the last day of work before i head for my long annual much awaited holidays. Yes, that was the little surprise i wanted to tell you all. I am heading for a Caribbean Cruise. So that's one more thing off my bucket list once i come back. :)
So this is my plan of action - Bombay - Paris(Stopover) - Miami, USA - Half Moon Cay, The Bahamas - ST Thomas, US Virgin Islands - San Juan, Puerto Rico - Grand Turk - Miami - Paris(Stopover) - Bombay.
This will be the most number of countries i will be covering in a single trip and that is one nice adventure i am eagerly awaiting. Needless to say i had some last minute packing to do which i have finally managed today and as per Murphy's law, i had lots and lots of work at office. Barely got time to breathe. But most of it is now done with so till the time i am on holidays, work wont suffer. I will definitely try to keep everyone posted via FB about my activities but cant give any assurances. But once i am back, i am going to upload my blog and post the pictures as well.
So until i come back, Good bye and Good Luck. 

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Day 1425

A new yet a regular reader of this blog wanted me to express my feelings in this blog. This friend felt that my previous blog wasn't very emotive. Well, i did write that blog in a semi-sleep state :)
I would say that Diwali time has always been memorable for me. There has hardly been a dull diwali season that i know of. Whether its travelling, being with loved ones, bursting crackers, lighting the diyas, decorating the house, decorating the office, eating sweets and so many other things. I have always enjoyed this part of the year. 2013 was no different. Despite certain personal setbacks early this year, i have come out fine and made peace with it. And have still managed to enjoy the moments and make my life more beautiful and worthwhile. The Baroda trip was just the start. The blog tomorrow night is going to have a bit of a surprise so watch this space for more.
So Monday was a holiday in office as it was the Hindu New Year. And so was tuesday due to Bhau-Bheej.
So monday afternoon, two and a half men decide to catch the show of Ender's game. And what happens, the show gets abruptly cancelled and we end up watching Krrish 3. Yes WTF.
due to circumstances beyond my control I had to watch this piece of cinematic crap. All about a superhero saving the world from a villian who also happens to be his step brother of sorts. With scenes lifted from Spiderman to superman returns to xmen and bits of plot from thor and even gunga-jamuna / deewar.
Rakesh roshan made some decent movies like khudgarz, kaala bazaar and khoon bhari maan. Even his flop, khel(again, inspired from 3 amigos) was entertaining. But what made film critics love krrish 3 is mystery. Reason being, I went to see this crap (as the show of ender's game got canceled) with my 3 year old nephew and even he started screaming towards the last 1 hour, "I want to go home. Stop this please". Unbelievable torture.
Took Junior to the nearby park after that so that he could get some oxygen inside considering the near-death experience we had while watching the film. Next day was cool. Had some errands to run in the morning. Had to get some posters that i had given for framing back.

This is the original signed poster of the entire Juventus FC Team and that of Alesandaro Del Pierro.
Got it from ebay.
Then had to get a travel bag for repairs. And get some money,
Caught up with a friend for a nice dinner at Moksha - Chembur.And then came home hoping to get some good sleep but had to stay watching Juventus Vs Real Madrid Champions league's group match. I managed to see the first half when Juventus lead 1-0 and then slept. To realize next morning that they drew 2-2.
It will take a real miracle to see them in the next stage round of 16.
Work was super piled up due to the long extended weekend. And, like many people, was in no mood of working and with the antarctic temperature in my office, i wanted to run away. Was feeling claustrophobic. Thankfully 6 PM came soon and i rushed out. Went shopping to Phoenix Mills (Details of that in tomorrow's blog). Came home, had some taco salad and started with my blog.
And as promised, here are some of my diwali decoration pics of my home and even that of Taj Getaway Baroda.

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Day 1422

Thursday was a day which was full of Murphy's laws. I left for work in the morning and had to come back up as i had thought i had forgotten my mobile phone. I came up and searched but in vain. I went down and saw it was in my bag at the bottom. Lunch was late than usual and i had kept my phone out to charge only to come back to find 6 missed calls from my driver. I called him back but he didnt pick up. Figured he would be driving. In the evening, scrooge called and said one car had a breakdown because the battery suddenly went dead and the other car had kinda bald tires and wasnt recommended to go for major long drive. And since it would be next morning before i could get a new battery changed and since i had to go to Baroda next morning and was without a confirmed railway ticket, i was thinking, just how the hell will i go? Also turned out that my driver was trying to call because i had sent him to get some stuff from the University and he was unable to locate the office, but somehow he managed at the last moment. So here i was, awaiting my short much awaited get away from the city without a car, without a confirmed reserved train ticket. Somehow, since i had booked tickets in a couple of trains, one of them got confirmed. Yet i couldn't cancel the others immediately and had to wait till morning to get it done. I was supposed to wake up at 4 AM but due to an error on my part, i kept the alarm for next thursday instead of friday. Thankfully i woke up at 4:45 and was ready in time to catch the train. Only to find out that i, once again, forgot where i kept my cell phone. Called from my land-line number on my cell phone to find out where it was and forgot to keep the land-line receiver. Aaagh. Couldn't wait to reach Baroda and relax at the hotel.
Now being an avid traveler, Baroda was one place in Gujarat that i had not been there yet. And i had a free stay at The Taj which i needed to utilize. And The Getaway by Taj at Baroda was the most worked out option available. So it was a nice train journey by the famous Shatapdi train. Reached Baroda and most importantly, The Getaway Hotel in Time. Now the hotel isnt exactly The Taj but its managed by The Taj group so one gets all the amenities which one would get at a hotel chain like The Taj but at a much lesser cost. After checking in, had some lunch and then headed for the major Tourist Attraction of the city - The Lakshmi Vilas Palace.
This is the residence of the former royal family of Baroda and is by far the biggest modern royal residences of the country. The Baroda royal family has been known to be patronage of all good things in life and have always known to be the pioneers in the field of education. The Maharaja Sayaji University in Baroda is as prestigious as the Delhi, Mumbai or Madras University. And its spread on multiple huge campuses across the Baroda City. After the auido-tour of the palace and buying a small memento, i went back to the hotel. I decided to go for a swim but somehow felt the water was too damn cold(and the nice cool weather in the evening helping it too), so had to come out of the pool in less then 5 minutes. Went up in the room, freshened up and watched a movie on TV - A thousand words - A just about watchable movie of Eddie Murphy about a guy who has found out he had just one thousand words left to say before he dies. What could have been a very well meant spiritual movie happens to be a just about passable fare. Had a nice dinner and then was sleeping before midnight.
Had a sound sleep after a really long time. Next morning, after breakfast, caught up with a friend and went for a small drive round the city and then had lunch. After that went back to the hotel and tried to swim, but again it was too cold in the water. But somehow i managed to remain for about half and hour or so. In the evening, my friend came back from work and we spent some time having a cuppa and generally talking about things. Had a nice buffet dinner and then watched some TV before going to bed.
Next morning, which is today, woke up early and caught the 8:25 Paschim express back to the city.
Came home and freshened up and wore the new clothes, as traditionally most people do during Diwali day and caught up with another close friend for dinner at Blend N Brew. Had some nice good conversation and thankfully got no traffic going or coming back home. Diwali is the festival time when the city is full of lights and over the years have been less and less of noise. This year too, thankfully, people have more and more started to realize that Diwali - as the name signifies, is the festival of lights and not sound. So it was wonderful to see the shops all lit up, homes decorated and lit up and everyone in a jolly festive mood. Even i have lit up my home a bit with the traditional lanterns and diyas. Will try and upload the pics tomorrow.
I also wanted to write about a nice dream that i had got on Friday night. I dreamt, i was in paris with mum and i could see the entire eiffel tower from where i was staying, Mum was telling me why I want to go there again? And i told her, come what may, i will  not come back unless i visit the Eiffel Tower once again. And just as i was about to climb, i woke up. :( Shared the dream with a friend who had just visited Paris and both of us were crying from inside, as to, when will we go back to the beautiful city once again ?
Well, I sincerely hope it happens soon.

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Day 1418

My work, in many ways, resembles the house of Big Brother. The Big Brother is never seen and only heard. And every day(in a broader sense) one person gets eliminated. Don't wish to say more on that. Friday, i happen to see - The Fifth Estate - very interesting movie based on the founding of famous site for whistleblowers - wikileaks and the friends to foe relationship of Julian Assange and Daniel Berg. Although not as intense as the insider (again based on a real life whistle blower), this one is unlike any poor newspaper reviews. It's a well made movie which should have been edited by 15 minutes. Benedict Cumberbatch is great as Assange. He is made to look so much like him that in end scene, it's very difficult to make out who is the real Assange. Daniel Bruhl only looks irritating but has acted well. I would recommend this movie as a rare thinking film. And pleasantly surprised that the movie doesn't take any sides.
Weekend was very relaxing. Didnt do much on saturday. On Sunday caught up with a friend for dinner in the evening.
Was the usual week on Monday with a bit of more work than usual and the routine big brother office :)

Today, got some Diwali decorations for home, with the diyas, lanterns, a few sparklers, spinning wheels just for the tradition, And after years, lit them up in the building terrace with Purav and the little fella really enjoyed it.

We will move forward, we will move upward, and yes, we will move onward - Dan Quayle

About to embark something quite important on a professional front. Hoping that this step will be what Dan Quayle quoted.

Big Thanks to Suchita Parikh for all the encouragement and unconditional support for this one.

Tuesday, October 22, 2013

Day 1410

Last evening i went for a movie. Shahid - So many times you have Hindi movies which dont get enough publicity , is made on a shoestring budget compared to the crap that is being churned out every weel, released in limited theatres and one hopes it works through word of mouth. Shahid is one such movie. Based on the real life incidences of Slained criminal lawyer, Shahid Azmi. This is a very well made film and Rajkumar Yadav has given a standout performance. Very likely that he will get a bunch of best actor awards for this one. PS - Did anyone else also feel that Yadav looks and acts like Jon Cryer ? :-)
So many times in the last few months, i have gone out, mostly alone. For Dinners, travels, lunches, Movies and even shopping. I see many people come with their families, girlfriends, wives, husbands, boyfriends, friends in general, children etc. So when i see myself alone, i will admit(Since i am a human) that it feels sad. Sad because its a wonderful feeling to go out and do things you enjoy with company. If you think about it, your favorite memories, the most important moments in your life, were you alone ?
So for anyone who asks me, and i have been asked that a lot in the last few days, how do i go about doing things without company? How do i like doing that? To be honest, with some of my failed relationships in the past and knowing my current relationship status, i dont whole heartedly enjoy it as much as i would have enjoyed with company. Specifically that of a partner. A loved one. A girfriend/wife/fiancee.
But here's the thing, i am making the best of what i have. I have the guts to do things without the need of any conventional company and still enjoy. I can travel alone. I can dine alone. I can go for movies alone. I can stay home alone. I can go for a walk alone. I can shop alone. I can enjoy all these small moments and enjoy this wonderful life without necessarily have to be dependent on anyone.
Is that a best of feelings? Not really. But I will not say its a bad thing either. Atleast i am being happy. Atleast i have still travelled to so many different places and done so many things beating all normal conventions that people have made and yet the same people who want to do all this, and who are having company in the name of girlfriends/spouses/children etc have still not been able to do it. :)
So if you look at the broader scheme of things, who has got the shorter end of the stick where enjoying things are concerned ? :)

Sunday, October 20, 2013

Day 1408

A question was asked to me by an office colleague. Over the years of working, how many people did i know? Its been almost 19+ years that i have been working(I even count my days in engineering as work experience and a lot of fellow engineers will agree with me on this one). I have met, thousands(literally) of people of different race, ethnicity, economic diversities and nature. I have over 1150+ friends on facebook. I have personally met atleast 1100 of them. And over the years, counting even the people who are not on facebook, i would have interacted personally with atleast 2000+ people. I do not feel the need to be in touch with all of them but i can safely say that even if i have not met some of them for years, i have always been on cordial terms with 99% of them. For the 1 odd percent that i dont have cordial relationship with, i sincerely hope that we dont cross paths in life. I kept saying that baring the 2 odd years that i spent in my previous organization, my professional life involved me interacting with thousands(again literally) lots of people. And in 17 years, one can only imagine the number of people i have met and spoken to. And that is a prime reason, why away from my professional life, i do not like mixing or interacting with too many people in my personal life. This hasnt gone too well with quite a lot of people. But since those people are not in my shoes, they will never realize how annoying it can get when you have to socialize with people after work and after a hard day of work where i am tired of speaking and talking to people. I need a break from work routine when i come home. After a lot of years, and lots of lessons learnt the hard way, i have realized, or atleast started to realiz one thing, i need to concentrate on someone who i should be loving the most. Someone i should be caring about the most. Someone i should be nurturing more than anyone or anything in the world. And that person is ME.

I am sharing an FB interaction today, that Nithya Shanti had,  that might support a few others...

Q. I'm contemplating agency and how it interrelates with happiness. Would you say that one man's happiness is worth sacrificing the happiness of those around him. Two thoughts I've had: if a man's pursuit of happiness causes sadness to those he loves, how can he truly be happy; but if he sacrifices his own happiness to provide for others (and for whatever reason this doesn't fulfill him and being him happiness) then can those around him truly feel happiness? What are your thoughts on this?

R. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. My understanding is simply this: No matter how I live this life, some will be pleased and some will be displeased. So I might as well ensure ONE person is pleased, ME!

I am not here to please others. I am here to live my truth. And when I live my truth, it may inspire others to live their truth without worrying so much about whether it pleases or displeases others.

Real happiness is our natural state, unaffected by the choices and decisions of others. To be affected is to afflicted, not so much by what others do, but by our expectations, attachments and judgements about what they do. No one can cause anyone else to suffer without their active cooperation.

And, on a deeper level, even the idea of agency and separation between individuals can be called into question. Is it really true that there is a separate doer here? Is it really true that others are separate? The common thread in all this is consciousness. Is consciousness really personal?

So as you can see this inquiry can go really deep. I invite you to remain divinely discontented and not settle for any answer, mine or even your own. Go to the root of this question. Stay with it and it will burn through a lot of the dross. I wish you happiness and the ease of wisdom, which is wellbeing.

I saw 2 movies this week. I saw an interesting Hindi Movie - Professor ki Padosan. This movie was released in 1993 and it was the last released movie of one of India's most talented actors, Sanjeev Kumar. Now the movie was long in the making and the lead actor had passed away 8 years before the movie released. The producers had a tough time revamping the script and explaining the absence of the main actor in the movie. One only watched it to see Sanjeev Kumar for 1 last time on the big screen.
On Friday night, i saw Escape Plan - A guy who speaks less and lets his action speak is assigned to break out of the world's maximum security prison. There's the usual double cross and Plan B. With raw action at its best, who better to star than our favorite Sylvester Stallone and Arnold Schwarzenegger ? This could have well been The Expendables - 3. Very interesting story except for a much cliched climax. Yet, its a must watch for all English Action movies fan of the 80s and whoever are fans of Stallone/Schwarzenegger.
And since Diwali is coming in 2 weeks, it was time for the annual house cleaning. And since that is my favorite time of the year, i decided, proactively, to start the cleaning process. Atleast of my room. This was going to be a 2 phase thing. First, i had to sort out and file all the important papers and documents. Took almost 1 and a half hours but i did it on Friday night. Next morning, arranged my entire cupboard and hopefully i shall keep it that way for the entire year. My man friday and a part time helper who comes to my home daily helped me too and a big thanks to them too. And my, or rather our home's, man friday actually likes cleaning the home a lot, proactively cleaned the living room and even helped give the main curtains for dry cleaning after nearly 3 years. Usually, mum was the one who did all this. But now since mum is not around, i have decided to be proactive and do it. And thankfully,  99.9% of the paperwork is in place and filed(Atleast mine and the ones common for the house). 50-60% of the house is cleaned. The walls which were filled with Scribbling from my Pablo Picasso of a nephew have been scrubbed and cleaned as much as they could have. So a job well done over the weekend.
I caught up with a friend for dinner in the evening at Moksha and that was a good meeting.
Sunday was spent in relaxing and doing absolutely nothing. No going out. No phone calls. No pending work. Just enjoying reading the newspapers, watching Crime Patrol for most parts of the day and surfing the net. In a bit I will have my dinner and possibly watch a movie on TV or maybe sleep early and call it a day.
I sincerely hope that all weekends are like this.
Also, eagerly awaiting Diwali as then my fun time starts. Lots of activities planned for the month of November.
Will be updating my blog as and when it happens.
Till then, Good evening!!!

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Day 1403

Wow, i thought i had written the blog on sunday and didnt realize it was a sunday before that.
These 10 days have gone by very fast. What have I done ? Well, actually, nothing all that great. Its been a clockwork life. I have been waking up way too early (Almost 6:45 AM daily), going to work. Facing a different set of challenges every day at work, overcoming them by playing it smartly and then coming back home. Since my work doesnt have physical strain i dont get tired in office but the moment i reach home, i am dead tired to go out or do anything. So it was a big thing for me to go for a family get together on Friday after work and I was very tired when i came home. Since Scrooge was flying to USA next evening, we were getting some stuff organized so that there is no issue in his absence. Next morning i had a few errands to run like going to the bank and getting some stuff for Scrooge while he was busy packing. In the evening I went to see the preview show of Captain Phillips - Now this movie was based on the real life kidnapping of a cargo ship captain by the infamous Somali Pirates. Tom Hanks acts in barely 1 film a year. If Saving Mr Banks does get released this year and if the promos are anything to go by, Tom Hanks could be the first person in film history of the world, to play real life characters, get nominated for 2 different films in the same category and win the Oscar for the best actor. The last 5 minutes of Captain Phillips will prove why Tom Hanks can still give any actor on the face of this planet a marathon run for their money. Brilliant film and top class acting.
Sunday, i had to wake up, yet again, relatively early as had to rush in the morning to meet a guy to get some name transfer thing done for my home's electricity bill. Then i came home and barely rested and i again had to step out for some property dealing that I am doing. I came home and was so tired that i crashed in to bed for an afternoon nap.
In the evening, got some food from my fav restaurant, The Sun and watched it over some WWE style cricket match.
I thought Monday would be the routine headache, but for a change, monday was good at office. A lot of clients that we were following up for a long time, finally cleared most of their old outstanding invoices so that was a big chip of our shoulders. My manager gave a small birthday treat so we ordered food from out and cut the customary cake and generally it was a nice and somber mood.
In the evening, went out for a cuppa with an office colleague who wanted to speak some things with me. I am not at the liberty to discuss anything on what was spoken but I sincerely hope things work out or that office colleague's personal life.
Went for another movie in the evening after work - Fire in the blood - Now, in 2007, Michael Moore had made a documentary, Sicko, a powerful one on the corrupt health care and health insurance companies. Fire in the blood is about the crime of the century, by one of the biggest organized crime sector, the big pharma companies. And relatively smaller companies, like Cipla, trying to make generic drugs and how they have been pushed back by the big pharma. Although it focused only on the Anti-Aids Vaccine, Cipla had similar issues while making generic anti-cancer drugs too. Although not as well made as Sicko, Fire in the blood is still a very good documentary to watch atleast once.
Tuesday was another routine day in office.
Hey, I forgot, last week I also saw another movie - Diana - If the tradition goes right, a Brit Actor/Actress playing the role of someone from the British Royal Family or a famous Brit of the 20th Century, winning n oscar, then Naomi Watts will have very well won it for the Best Actress when the awards will be held in 2014. Although its an average film which focuses only on Lady Diana's relationship with Dr. Hasnat Khan (A cousin of Cricketer Imran Khan), it's not as bad as the reviews.

Saturday, October 5, 2013

Day 1393

Its been a fortnight when all i have been doing is, once again, clearing some paperwork, going to office and if i get time, i watch a movie in the evening. One of the biggest nuisances of living in this country is the amount of paperwork that needs to be done. Whether its banks, government organizations, official work or educational institutions. Scrooge and me are doing certain changes where almost everything that can be done electronically, we are doing that. Whether its payment of utility bills, buying groceries, day trading, investments, banking etc. For some things which is mandatory to have paper work, we have filed everything, although it needs to be more systematic, so that will happen eventually. And in order to do the other things electronically, there is a whole bunch of paperwork involved, and fortunately, we are now at the last leg of it. Hopefully by the end of this year, we would have transferred all our paperwork in the e-format so that there is no chance of it getting lost/misplaced/damaged. I watched a few movies.
The Lunchbox - This was a slow 80's type art movie about a lunchbox switch blooming into a friendship between a soon to be retired old widower and a young mum going through a turbulent marriage. Its a decent one time fare for those who like realistic movies. Decent acting by the lead actors but its too hyped and definitely not the oscar sending stuff that it wanted to be,
Prisoners - This is an extremely intense film about kidnapping of young kids and how crazy it can drive parents. Jack Gyllenhaal has a role similar to Zodiac and acts well. Hugh Jackman is brilliant as a harried father. This movie is certainly not for the weak hearted and is one of the finest suspense films that has come.
Elysium - This one is a look at the not too distant future when the earth will be overpopulated, over polluted and poverty stricken. Basic necessities will be a luxury for the select few. Oh wait, aren't we experiencing all this already ? Matt damon has acted well though its a routine rich vs poor movie. Wouldnt recommend watching it on an imax screen though.
Gravity - I hate 3D. I abhor imax. So when it was announced that Gravity would release in 3d IMAX, i was disappointed. But because, George Clooney was in it, I had to watch it. Frankly, there is no screenplay.  Movie is on the lines of Apollo 13 and a bit of Moon. But the visual effects are great. And I will say, for the first time, watch this one ONLY in imax 3d. And remember, scientifically, you actually can not hear sound in space. Lemme rephrase..I hate movies releasing in imax and 3d left right and centre. I know one documentary which was made specially for imax which was on the international space station, narrated by Tom cruise. So movies like that are bearable. But releasing every action movie / movies with visual effects in 3d and imax is very annoying and stressful for the eyes.
So while a gravity or avatar is welcome in imax/3d...
Releasing sholay, the great Gatsby. The amazing Spider-Man, Happy feet in imax / 3d is taking it too far and making it an headache to watch the movie. I believe movies should be made with imax and 3d technology rather than making a movie and then releasing it in 3d after the reels are released.

A very interesting thing happened after i was coming back home watching Prisoners. My driver, called me and was sounding tense. Reason being, his 6 year daughter was missing and had not come home. I was thinking, this is so surreal. I was watching a movie on kidnapping and suddenly i get a call of someone missing. Fortunately she was found studying in someone's house. Thing was she had gone to a friend's house and didnt inform her folks. Would highly recommend that anyone having kids, should ensure that their kids keep their folks, knowledge about their whereabouts.
I caught up with my best friend on October 2. Since it was a holiday for both of us, we had a nice breakfast at Cafe New York a few mins drive from my house. Then we went to Lamington road where i bought some memory cards for my phone and he bought some bike accessories.
It was good catching up. In the evening, went out with another friend and shopped for some clothes. I actually wanted to but some cargo shorts and trousers but managed to get only 1 cargo trouser. In the evening bought some stuff online, one of them included, bowling shirts, just like the one Charlie Sheen wears in two and a half men :)

And for the first time in many months, we had a full team meeting on Tuesday. Lots of points were discussed and one hopes that this is a regular occurrence and not an once in a blue moon thing.
So barring a few hiccups, work has been going very smooth. This is exactly the kind of an ideal life or a perfect world one is thankful for. Of course, having someone to share it with makes it even more good. So lets see what happens. 

Sunday, September 22, 2013

Day 1380

Its been quite busy since Wednesday. A long pending issue at work, finally got a resolution that all of us in the finance team had been crying since April of this year. So Thursday and Friday were extremely busy day at work. Of course, we didnt get 100% results as expected, but atleast there was a start, and i can safely say that atleast 50% of the task is done. Which is better than not starting at all and getting nothing done. Friday was a nice day at office otherwise too. It was a colleague's birthday and after a long time, we had the entire staff having lunch together. Of course, one never gets 100% attendance in such things as 1 of the guys was out at a client's office for that long pending work. But i look at things positively and a team lunch is much appreciated and a good thing. There was the traditional cake cutting in the evening and then i went to see a movie - Malavita after work. Now Malavita was released in some countries as Family. Our Friend Robert DeNiro played a gangster. Tommy Lee Jones was the cop on trail. Luc Besson as director and Martin Scorsese as an executive producer. A big reference to Goodfellas(also about witness protection program). This one is a must watch and a full 5 out of 5, irrespective of what the bloody newspaper critics say.
Next morning, 2 and a half men were off to see Rush at a matinee show. This one is based on the famous F1 rivalry between Niki Lauda and James Hunt. This one is like a F1 race, extremely fast  paced and well acted and directed. Ron Howard proves, again, to be great in adapting real life incidents in to films. Although there were some factual errors, this one is still a movie worth seeing. Surprised that a Ron Howard movie was not marketed well. Came back home and decided to take a nap in the afternoon which was good. In the evening had some New Yorker's Pizza and then went to see another movie 2 Guns. This one has Denzel Washington playing a bad ass wise cracking cop. So enough Said and go watch it :)

I thought i would sleep till late on sunday but considering that i am so habituated to waking up by 7:30 every day that even on my work offs, i end up waking around that time, never mind what time i have slept the previous night. So sunday was spent relaxing, and watching my fav movie - Schindler's List on TV and eating Pizza for lunch. In the afternoon, Scrooge and me attended our first ever AGM in our society. Thankfully there were no heated arguments but lots of healthy discussions. Hopefully in the next few weeks, i will participate more in these activities of the building because the committee members have been doing a thankless job for many years and they want a break. Was supposed to meet someone in the evening for a cuppa but that got cancelled due to last minute plan changes. Well, hopefully we shall meet sometime this week or next.
I was very eager to write my blog today as after a long time i had a weekend where i enjoyed in only leisure for most part of the time. And it feels very relaxing after i write the blog. The coming week will prove to be hectic at work but that is something I am looking forward to.
Good night till then. 

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Day 1376

These are the educational qualifications of Dr. Manmohan Singh
M.A.(Economics), DPhil, DLitt(Honoris Causa), PhD(thesis on India's export competitiveness).
The only person (Living or Fictional) who comes close is one Dr Sheldon Cooper.

And this is what Dr. Singh has to say about the rising food prices in India.

"What prices are going up are prices of vegetables, prices of eggs, prices of fish, that is the secondary and tertiary food items. That is a reflection of the demand for these commodities exceeding supplies. That in turn, to some extent at least, is a sign of growing prosperity of our country. If our national income increases by 8 percent per annum and our population is increasing at 1.6 per cent per annum, the per capita income is growing at 6-6.5 per cent,"

For those who are not as "wise" or "educated" like this "Great Person", he is saying, that rising food prices is a prosperous thing.

What i want to share is, Being an educated person does NOT reflect on your general intelligence and Dr Singh has proved to be the epitome of that.

God(If ever such an omnipresent being wants to listen and do something) bless this country and its honest tax paying citizens.
Disclaimer - My statements, does not and will not, indicate in any way support of any other political party, specially BJP and "His Holiness" Narendra Modi.
All political parties and politicians are corrupt in this country. This whole propaganda of potraying Mr Modi as the Savior of the Nation is a bunch of crap. This is actually fantastic PR job by his PR Machinery.
I am so sure, he will do the same things that he has blamed his predecessors of doing. BJP+Allies were in Majority during 1995-1999 and besides the nuclear Tests(And that did not mean shit to someone who can not afford 2 square meals per day), they didnt acheive anything at all.
We are travelling in the same overcrowded trains, pot holed roads, increasing prices of essential commodities and on top of it, we are paying loads of taxes.

On other news:- Being Ganesh Visarjan day, people in our office unanimously decided to leave early. Some left after lunch. My team left around 4 PM. Didnt do much, came home via the local udipi. And only saw some TV and surfed the net. I wanted to sleep early but just couldnt do so. Guess, i will do so now.
Good night. 

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Day 1375

I saw John Day last night. Which had all the potential to be a great prequel to A Wednesday but because it blatantly lifted all scenes from the Spanish Movie - Box 507, instead of just seeking inspiration, it failed big time. While going to the theatre, a road that shouldnt have taken more than 20 minutes, took almost 35-40 minutes. All because of the Ganesh Chaturthi Celebrations. All of which were full of loud stupid hindi film music, and mad rush of people every where to, apparently, seek blessings from the demi-god in the hope that their wishes would get fulfilled. Its sad, that our country has come to such a situation that its either you come personally and get the blessings or hell, god wont listen to you. After years of doing things wrong, i have realized that in the end, whatever you do and whatever results you get, are your own actions or inactions. Very rarely are there any divine interventions. I will now believe in divine interventions ONLY if certain things that i have in mind(And God being the omnipresent being would know that because he/she is GOD) would come true and AT MY timings.
Enough said about that. Today is September 17. This day will have a very special place in my heart. Among the people who celebrate their birthday today, some of them will always have a very special place in my heart. (And NO, Narendra Modi is NOT one of them). I will share the pictures of 2 of them, who sadly are no more in this world.

These 2 gents, have been known to be the most warm hearted people in their respective fields and have been loved by one and all. Not one person i know would have anything bad to say about them. Wherever they are, I will always remember them and will always have a special place in my heart.
Someone else i know, who i hope is reading this blog, also celebrates birthday on 17th September. Even that person will have a very very special place in my heart. For what it was worth, i am hoping if at all there is any divine intervention, i get connected to that person. And for that person, if you are reading this blog, Wishing you a very happy birthday. I guess i have nothing else to offer or say on that part.
The weather, thankfully has been great throughout the day. With late seasonal rains, its been cooler and a much respite from the fucking heat that usually follows monsoons. I sincerely hope it stays like that forever.
I was going through a lot of mixed emotions throughout the course of the day. And hence i felt the need to update my blog. Atleast it feels good. Atleast now i can sleep without any load on my head.
Thank you for reading my blog. Good night and Sweet Dreams.
And once again, have a very happy birthday.  

Monday, September 16, 2013

Day 1374

A few days back i got a thought out of no where. That actor, Yusuf "Dilip Kumar" Khan would probably die. Yesterday, i read a short headline on a news channel that he is in the hospital. Today i get a premonition that he is going to die, by 23rd September. Now, going by the past records of my premonitions, i have a sad and fear of a feeling that this may come true. I hope I am wrong though, i do not want to wish of anyone dying.
I had a very nice weekend. I saw, after a movie that i had recorded, on TV. Fear and loating in las vegas. A movie which was based on a book written by the late great Hunter Thompson. And starring Our Guy, Johnny Depp. Now honestly, this movie is about a guy going to las vegas to cover a dirt bike race but gets fully tripped on drugs. Thats it. So anyone who wants to know how does it feel like to be on drugs, and does not want to actually take it, this is THE movie to watch.
In the evening caught up with a friend for a cuppa and then in the night went out for Grown Ups 2 with Scrooge. Now Scrooge and me are fan of Adam Sandler movies. Mainly because of the crass humor, references to the 80s and wholesome entertainment. However, one missed Rob Schneider. Wonder why he didn't act in this one.
Woke up at ease on Sunday and was spent relaxing more or less. Also, it was the day when a much pending task which Scrooge and me were following up for almost 2 years got finished and that was one big burden off our shoulders. And because it took such a long time, both were very numb and tired to display any reaction. Went for a little drive and coffee in the evening and ended the day with a meal of Pizzas. Well, its monday now, and back to the grind.

Friday, September 13, 2013

Day 1371

Today, despite being friday the 13th, has been a day filled with lots of love, happiness and positiveness. I have had my share of bad things happening on a friday the 13th and i woke up today expecting, maybe something will go wrong. But thankfully it didnt and everything was going good. Before i start about today, i would like to write a bit about the last couple of days. Well, for starters, a little bit of extra workload has got increased in office. Which is good, because then time will fly very fast. I saw Shudh Desi Romance on wednesday evening. Which is a decent light hearted movie with good acting by everyone. And which teaches us a lesson which my Guru, Charlie Sheen, has always preached - "as long as I've got somebody to clean my house and some action on a regular basis, i dont need a wife" :))
I was also discussing one thing with a friend, and this is something that i have learnt from my best friend(And a regular reader and a person giving lots of creative inputs about this blog), that really, when you are speaking with another human being, are you hearing him/her out ? Are you being kind to that person's state of mind ? Are you making that person feel good about himself/herself? Are you being compassionate ? And for doing all of this, does it take any extra effort ?
We are living in a world, where not many people are kind. Everyone comes with their own agenda and even if they are justified in doing that, they dont have any right to pass any comments or judgements (unless where legally required) for another person's issues. I have said it before and i will say it again. Standard Solutions for Problems are problems and NOT solutions. What worked for you in a particular issue may NOT work for another person in a similar issue. You may give your opinion but you can not pass any judgements. If only more and more people were kind, the world wouldnt have wars, there would be no conflicts and everyone would stay at peace. A person once said, The world has enough for everyone's needs, but not enough for everyone's greed.
Anyway, so today was a very nice day for me. Work was relaxing, as it always is on a friday, and in the evening, caught up with a dear friend, Mithil, who is an ex office colleague for some drinks and light dinner. We met after a year and it was great to catch up and talk about the good ol' days. We then went to our ex-office and caught up with some old friends and they were all pleasantly surprised to see us. Had a good laugh and remembered the good ol' days of Saturday Night parties at office. We promised to catch up again soon and perhaps even go for a one day picnic. So all in all these were the nice moments that made this day so good and despite whatever is happening around, somehow one still goes back with a feeling, that "Its a wonderful world".
Peace and love be with you all. 

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Day 1369

I was supposed to write a blog on Monday but was feeling too lazy. And one of the blog’s new reader asked me to write one today without fail. So here I am. My weekend was spent amazingly well. I woke up at ease on Saturday and was relaxing all afternoon. In the evening, i went to Andheri to a couple friend’s house. We had dinner out at Woodside inn and were in a totally chilled out mood with fantastic food and drinks. It was after a really long time that i had some, “Milk of Amnesia” as i would like to put it. We bought in my friend, Rajeev aka Amjad Khan’s, 40th birthday. And although he smiled throughout, from inside he was crying because of the words 40th Birthday.  It was awesome catching up with Shalini and Rajeev after a long time and being the fantastic friendship that we have, it felt like we had met only yesterday. We spoke in length about 2 things which bind us very well, Movies and travelling. And we can speak about that in length and depth. So it was almost 1 AM by the time we got up to go home. And i must thank Shalini, again, for all the support that you have given all this while and i know you are one person who will always help me with my personal issues (And you know what they are) and it helps a lot to get a kind woman’s point of view in all of this.
By the time i reached home and slept it was 3:30 AM. I had to, sadly, wake up relatively early before 10 in the morning as my house was due for a pest control servicing. Which meant i couldn’t turn on the fan and had a massive headache due to the fact that i had woken up early and had a few drinks last night. So the best thing for a hangover, lime water. And that felt better. Met up with someone for late lunch /coffee in the afternoon and then in the night, Scrooge and me went to The Sun and had a nice dinner. Since it was holiday next day and because i was so tired after 2 days of fun, i crashed by 10:30. Slept for a good 12 hours and felt better in the morning. After a nap in the afternoon, went for a small drive and a coffee with a friend and in the night was just relaxing watching some TV. It was a pain, going to work after an extended weekend and had quite a lot of stuff lined up, but was manageable yesterday. After ages, i managed to watch a hindi movie on Tv. This one was 1996’s Sapoot. Another rehash of The Godfather with some twists and turns. Watchable fare if you have nothing else to do. Over the last 3-4 days, i have been interacting with a few people over the internet and through meeting them face to face and some over the phone. And once again i felt that most of them are feeling down and out. Some are not vocal about it but there is one thing in common, all are seeking kindness. How much effort does it take to be non-judgemental ? How much effort does it take to give someone a listening ear ?? How much effort does it take to be kind ??? The answer is none at all. But are we doing it ? The world doesnt need any smart people. The world needs Kind Human Beings.
A good way to spend an hour on any of the social networking site is spreading happiness. One way to do this is posting fun, direct, happy, unique and true notes of gratitude on the walls of your dear friends. Why wait for a birthday to make their day and tell them how much you love and appreciate them? And for those who are not on any of the social networking site, i am pretty sure all of you have access to a mobile phone or an email ? So why not just use that to show how much you love and appreciate your friends ? Send a text message or simple email it. If not, write a letter and post it to their homes. Thats even more personal and nice old fashioned. Your time starts....NOW!!!

Saturday, September 7, 2013

Day 1365

Today, i would like to post a small article i read online. It was shared by Nithya Shanti (Who is in layman's term, a new age spiritual leader and not at all the fake publicity seeking kinds) who got it from someone who got divorced recently and who he knows:-


Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my divorce being finalized this week that gives me perspective of things I wish I would have done different… After losing a woman that I loved, and a marriage of almost 16 years, here’s the advice I wish I would have had...

1) Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love.

2) PROTECT YOUR OWN HEART. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there.

3) FALL IN LOVE OVER and OVER and OVER again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN’T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her.

4) ALWAYS SEE THE BEST in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife.

5) IT’S NOT YOUR JOB TO CHANGE OR FIX HER… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not.

6) TAKE FULL ACCOUNTABILITY for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love.

7) NEVER BLAME your wife If YOU get frustrated or angry at her, it is only because it is triggering something inside of YOU. They are YOUR emotions, and your responsibility. When you feel those feelings take time to get present and to look within and understand what it is inside of YOU that is asking to be healed. You were attracted to this woman because she was the person best suited to trigger all of your childhood wounds in the most painful way so that you could heal them… when you heal yourself, you will no longer be triggered by her, and you will wonder why you ever were.

Allow your woman to JUST BE. When she’s sad or upset, it’s not your job to fix it, it’s your job to HOLD HER and let her know it’s ok. Let her know that you hear her, and that she’s important and that you are that pillar on which she can always lean. The feminine spirit is about change and emotion and like a storm her emotions will roll in and out, and as you remain strong and unjudging she will trust you and open her soul to you… DON’T RUN-AWAY WHEN SHE’S UPSET. Stand present and strong and let her know you aren’t going anywhere. Listen to what she is really saying behind the words and emotion.

9) BE SILLY… don’t take yourself so damn seriously. Laugh. And make her laugh. Laughter makes everything else easier.

10) FILL HER SOUL EVERYDAY… learn her love languages and the specific ways that she feels important and validated and CHERISHED. Ask her to create a list of 10 THINGS that make her feel loved and memorize those things and make it a priority everyday to make her feel like a queen.

11) BE PRESENT. Give her not only your time, but your focus, your attention and your soul. Do whatever it takes to clear your head so that when you are with her you are fully WITH HER. Treat her as you would your most valuable client. She is.

12) BE WILLING TO TAKE HER SEXUALLY, to carry her away in the power of your masculine presence, to consume her and devour her with your strength, and to penetrate her to the deepest levels of her soul. Let her melt into her feminine softness as she knows she can trust you fully.

13) DON’T BE AN IDIOT…. And don’t be afraid of being one either. You will make mistakes and so will she. Try not to make too big of mistakes, and learn from the ones you do make. You’re not supposed to be perfect, just try to not be too stupid.

14) GIVE HER SPACE… The woman is so good at giving and giving, and sometimes she will need to be reminded to take time to nurture herself. Sometimes she will need to fly from your branches to go and find what feeds her soul, and if you give her that space she will come back with new songs to sing…. (okay, getting a little too poetic here, but you get the point. Tell her to take time for herself, ESPECIALLY after you have kids. She needs that space to renew and get re-centered, and to find herself after she gets lost in serving you, the kids and the world.)

15) BE VULNERABLE… you don’t have to have it all together. Be willing to share your fears and feelings, and quick to acknowledge your mistakes.

16) BE FULLY TRANSPARENT. If you want to have trust you must be willing to share EVERYTHING… Especially those things you don’t want to share. It takes courage to fully love, to fully open your heart and let her in when you don't know i she will like what she finds... Part of that courage is allowing her to love you completely, your darkness as well as your light. DROP THE MASK… If you feel like you need to wear a mask around her, and show up perfect all the time, you will never experience the full dimension of what love can be.

17) NEVER STOP GROWING TOGETHER… The stagnant pond breeds malaria, the flowing stream is always fresh and cool. Atrophy is the natural process when you stop working a muscle, just as it is if you stop working on your relationship. Find common goals, dreams and visions to work towards.

18) DON’T WORRY ABOUT MONEY. Money is a game, find ways to work together as a team to win it. It never helps when teammates fight. Figure out ways to leverage both persons strength to win.

19) FORGIVE IMMEDIATELY and focus on the future rather than carrying weight from the past. Don’t let your history hold you hostage. Holding onto past mistakes that either you or she makes, is like a heavy anchor to your marriage and will hold you back. FORGIVENESS IS FREEDOM. Cut the anchor loose and always choose love.

20) ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. ALWAYS CHOOSE LOVE. In the end, this is the only advice you need. If this is the guiding principle through which all your choices is governed, there is nothing that will threaten the happiness of your marriage. Love will always endure.

In the end MARRIAGE isn’t about Happily ever after. It’s about work. And a commitment to grow together and a willingness to continually invest in creating something that can endure eternity. Through that work, the happiness will come.

Marriage is life, and it will bring ups and downs. Embracing all of the cycles and learning to learn from and love each experience will bring the strength and perspective to keep building, one brick at a time.

These are lessons I learned the hard way. These are lessons I learned too late.

But these are lessons I am learning and committed in carrying forward. Truth is, I LOVED being married, and in time, I will get married again, and when I do, I will build it with a foundation that will endure any storm and any amount of time.

If you are reading this and find wisdom in my pain, share it those those young husbands whose hearts are still full of hope, and with those couples you may know who may have forgotten how to love. One of those men may be like I was, and in these hard earned lessons perhaps something will awaken in him and he will learn to be the man his lady has been waiting for.

The woman that told him 'I do', and trusted her life with him, has been waiting for this man to step up.

If you are reading this and your marriage isn’t what you want it to be, take 100% responsibility for YOUR PART in marriage, regardless of where your spouse is at, and commit to applying these lessons while there is time.

MEN- THIS IS YOUR CHARGE : Commit to being an EPIC LOVER. There is no greater challenge, and no greater prize. Your woman deserves that from you.

Be the type of husband your wife can’t help but brag about.

Thursday, September 5, 2013

Day 1363

I often get confused on how to start my blog after a considerable gap. But once i start writing, then the flow continues. Lets start with something more important. The movies. :) I saw 4 movies since the last blog. Starting with the horrendous sequel - Once upon Ay time in mumbai dobara. The first part was decent but this one was all about the trailer misleading the actual movie. Saw Jobs after that. This one is an interesting bio-pic on the legendary Apple Inc's founder - Steve Jobs. Saw the Apple 2, which was the first computer that my family purchased, way back in 1984 and its still there with one of my dad's cousin. Though one wishes, for the first time, that the movie would have been longer and they would have shown the launch of the famous i-phone and his rivalry and back to friendship with Bill Gates. Then saw Madras Cafe which could have been a classic had it not been for the family melodrama thrown unnecessarily. And what amazing acting by Siddhartha Basu in his debut film. Have always been a fan of Babu, as he is fondly called, since Quiz Time Days of 1986. Then saw The Frozen Ground which was based on real life mass murders, and much like Zodiac and From Hell and our very own Stoneman Murders. Sad that it didnt get marketed well. A fortnight back, on a sunday, after a long time, i caught up with The Fat Guy and it was fun having dinner after a long time. Of course, it was my bad that i didnt get to call Avatar Baba and there was some conflicts on that. But all's settled now. In the end, friendship is such that one goes through highs and lows but whats important is that you stick through all of that. And it just takes one person to extend the hand and one shouldnt have any egos in who should be the first one to do that. My office is the usual. There has been some amount of unnecessary drama so one wonders what is in store in the future. But i would rather take each day as it comes and just somehow manage to ensure that i survive the day and dont ruin my happiness for anyone or anything. The last weekend was one of the finest weekends i have had in quite a while. I woke up at around 10 on saturday morning, then had some yummy home made pizzas, went for a movie with Scrooge. Came home and again had pizzas. Then watched some TV and the amazing Juventus Vs Lazio Serie A Football on TV. After that was talking to a friend till around 4 AM. By the time i slept it was around 5:30 AM. I woke up around 9 and then got ready for a Sunday Poolside brunch with the school gang. 10 of us (Kids included) went to Hotel Sea Princess for a nice swim and brunch. We had a ball of a time and havent laughed a lot since a very long time. By the time i came back home, it was around 9 in the evening. That was because i had to meet someone and a 30 minute meet lasted a good 2 hours. But time well spent definately. And then its the same grind from Monday. I wanted to write on one topic, which i have been purposely not mentioning on my blog, but i guess i should. This is about my marital status. Yes, i am not married as of now. Yes, i am not seeing any woman. Yes, i have now opened to marrying again. But i have some expectations. The woman should be someone i am physically attracted to and vice versa. The person should accept me for what i have and what i am and vice versa. And lastly, that person SHOULD be happy. Now happy is a very subjective matter. What i understand is that, one should be happy with that major decision of your life and it has to be from within and not superficial. Thousands of people may have their own views on these matters and life partner choices. It could range from Matching Horoscopes, ensuring the family is good, the person should be educated, good looking etc. The list is long. But what matters most is that are you happy ? If you are not, then why get in to a relationship hoping that things will get better ?? Only once you are happy and content from within, will you be able to spread it in a relationship. It doesnt work the other way around. All these may look and sound simple, but the real test comes when you have to implement it. So if you think you can fit the above bill, you can contact me and we can take it further. If not, then may peace and love be with you. Ps - Last few days, atleast 5 people have said they have been reading my blogs and have liked my writing. One of them even said i am in the wrong profession and I should take up writing seriously and make that as my profession. To all of them, a big thank you. Your kind words have made my day.

Sunday, August 18, 2013

Day 1345

Expectation - Noun
A strong belief that something will happen or be the case in the future.
A belief that someone will or should achieve something.

The Gita says that one should do their tasks without having any expectations. Humans have a tendency of expecting outcomes. It could be with trying for jobs, studies, sports, business deals or relationships. And people, if they face disappointments, when they don't get their desired outcomes, get disheartened, hurt. Some become numb. Some sensitive people get depressed. While some even more gentle and sensitive souls commit suicide. I was watching a crime show based on real life incidents where a person fell in love with a tele-marketer on a phone call and despite pursuing her(Without having even ever met her in person) couldn't take rejection and committed suicide. Was the root cause of suicide, the girl ? I would say root cause was expectation. Over the last 2-3 weeks, i have been through quite an emotional roller coaster ride. While till yesterday, finally things were looking good on a personal front and with some much awaited deals happening, all of a sudden today morning, i get a premonition. I got a weird dream and i wake up with a feeling that i am going to hear some unpleasant news on a personal front. And i did get to hear. I will not like to go in to details because there is some level of confidentiality of certain individuals concerned. But here is the thing i have seen, time and again. Just do not have any expectations. From anyone or anything. You Can be a good person but that will not guarantee you favorable results. You can be a kind person but that will not give you any assurance whether the the results of the work that you do will be kind. So what does do in these circumstances ?
A person that i follow a lot on facebook - Nithya Shanti has this to say:-

I will tell you what I do in such situations. It may not make logical sense, but it has always worked for me... 

When things are falling apart, when there is nothing to do, then let them fall apart, and do nothing!

This may seem like the worst kind of advice you can get, 
but trust me, it is actually the best. What it means is that we surrender, we let go, we admit that we can't figure it out and we accept our situation as it is instead of struggling 
with it every moment of every day.

And this is where there is a space, an opening for miracles to enter our life. But don't even expect any miracle. Let go, drop it, put down your burden and allow the greater intelligence of life to support and guide you. 

Actually this is not "your life". This is just life. Let life take care of itself. Focus on what is right in your life and do your best to be present with every experience. The rest will take care of itself.

Tuesday, August 13, 2013

Day 1340

I am back after 45 days. Its been a period where, as a person, i have undergone many changes from within as a person. I am, in the pursuit of being a good human being, learnt to be more tolerant and looking at everything with a perspective. Not that this was not happening but its been enhanced a lot in these last 45 days. Lots of time i felt like writing my blog but somehow i just couldnt get myself to do it. Either i was too lazy, or i had lots of personal paperwork and prospect property dealing that were taking my time, or i was with some near and dear ones or maybe at times i was just trying to rest. I may find a person like Amitabh Bachchan as annoying but i will always admire how he manages to update his blog every single day since the last 5 years. There have been breaks of 1-2 days but that occurance has been once in a blue moon. So with his busy schedule if he can update it everyday, i really shouldnt be finding excuses. And thats my weak point and i need to work on that. So hopefully by the end of this year, i will overcome that. So while work has been the usual, there was one particular week about a couple of weeks back where, within a span of 4 days, 4 people called/messaged me and expressed their gratitude to me when they got new jobs. While i helped one of them get through the interview level, i helped three of them, atleast thats what i felt in encouraging them to do what they feel is right to do where a job is concerned. All of them, however, have got the new jobs by their own hard work and merit. They thanked me only because i supported them and stood by them when they were in a state of dillema. I am only writing this to mention that, when it comes to people who are not sure of what needs to be done, dont give them any advice. Thats the worst thing that one does in this country. What i do, is i show them the pros and cons and tell them, "You decide what is best for you by weighing the pros and cons and whatever path you take, as a person giving unconditional support, i will always be there for you. I will not judge you, i will not advice you and I will certainly not say anything to put you down." I wish all of them, all the best in their new jobs and pray that they will shine even brighter in their respective future endevaors. I also managed to catch up on a few movies like R.I.P.D, The Conjuring, Ship Of Theseus, D-Day, Red 2, Bhaag Milkha Bhaag, Lootera, The Iceman and The Lone Ranger. And all of them were movies where i was, thankfully, not disappointed when i came home. The let down, was lootera, but even then it was not a bad film. I liked Ship of Theseus the best because its a movie for anyone who is spiritually inclined or atleast aspires to be there. We had a small family get-together on my father's side of family on 4th of August. So although i still feel very uncomfortable with so many family members, i somehow, managed to stay through the family lunch and it was almost 2 years since all of us had been together. I have, also, been meeting new people in the last 2-3 weeks and its very interesting to know them and understand different view points. On a personal front, i have always mentioned that i am a very reserved person. I do not like mingling with many people and do not prefer going for family functions. Ironically, except for the time i worked in Bahar Infocons, close to 14 years of my professional work expereince dealed with speaking to various types of people. And helping them solve queries. In short, it has always been customer-service. Even in Bahar Infocons, while i never dealt directly with customers, i had to deal a lot with the huge team of people working within the company because of the nature of job which involved a lot of human interactions. We had so many different work types to do (Managing data of 160 countries for Equity and Fixed Income securities is a crazy task which a single person can never do) that it would have been a professional suicide if i didnt speak to people to get my work done and vice-versa. Despite this, with the exception of close friends, i could never mingle socially in my personal life. Not that i am complaining but it would be good if i could do that as well. So amongst the two things i need to work upon by this year end, it would be to ensure i am more active socially on a personal front and i should update my blog daily. One would also wonder why do i have the pictures of 2 famous personalities on my post ? Well, amongst the people I admire who share their birthday today... Happy birthday..!!!

Sunday, June 30, 2013

Day 1296

I really need to be regular with my blogs. Like going to work, perhaps gymming, this is one habit that i need to inculcate in me. Maybe very soon i will be as regular as i was in 2009-2010. So while the weekdays were the regular at work. I even saw World War Z at a preview show on Thursday night which i felt was a  kind of a prequel to I am legend. I had a nice weekend, last 2 times. Last friday, my best friend and me went backpacking to Malvan. I had been there last year and its one of the most beautiful/green area of Maharashtra which thankfully isnt as explored as it should be. So we caught the 23:55 Rajyarani Express and reached a village - Kankavli at around 10 in the morning. Took the local State Transportation bus to Malvan and then an auto to Tarkarli. Tarkarli is a small beach town about 7-8 kms from Malvan and we stayed in a huge houseboat built on the MTDC resort property facing the amazing Tarkarli Beach. We relaxed for a while after having lunch and just took a nice walk on the beach. The weather in the evening was awesome. Absolutely windy and rains falling at some intervals and the amazing konkan rains can simply make you not do anything except chill and relax. Next morning, we decided to go to Malvan Town and shop a bit but most of the shops were closed, being sunday and a local religious day. We still managed to find a shop open near the town centre and got some local hot spices and cashew nuts. We headed to the famous Aangnewadi temple and then came back to the resort. Evening was spent just lazing around on the beach. All water sports and access to the Sindhudurga fort was closed till Diwali due to monsoon. And being off-season, we surprisingly, even got a refund from MTDC and they charged us off peak rates. Now that was a pleasant surprise.
Next day we had to leave by 9 in the morning for what was going to be 1 really long journey home. We reached the Malvan Bus stand but the bus, for some strange reasons was 45 minutes late. We finally reached Kanakavli by 13:00, had lunch and took the 14:30 Janshatapdi back home. Now the funny thing is, during non-monsoon times, the janshatapdi is at 16:00 and reaches Dadar at 23:30. During monsoons, it starts at 14:30 and reaches at 22:55. They say they wanna play it safe during the rains, but how does on define 2 hours early and reaching the destination only 30 minutes early ? Well, thank goodness anyways for Konkan Railways so that atleast travelholics(for a lack of better word) like me access to some beautiful places in the state is relatively easy and one need not depend on the killer Bombay-Goa highway.And it was a nice albeit short trip coming to an end. It was usual work week so nothing to write about on that front. This week has, India, has been in the news for very sad reasons. The floods and heavy rains in the northen state of Uttarkhand. Specifically the area in and around The Kedarnath temple where hundreds of thousands of people go for pilgrimage. And where its now officially announced that 10000 people are dead. I do not want to give any special comments on this national tragedy. What I do have to say is that God is There. Yes, God is there. Its because God is there that nothing happened to the over a thousand year old Kedarnath Temple. Its because God is there that none of the corrupt politicians who pocketed money meant for emergencies like these, people died because they didnt get relief in time. I have now even more than beginning to realize that God is very much present because no other explanation can be given for the well being of our prime minister who was busy inaugurating rail tracks in J&K and doing an aerial survey of the region while thousands of people died. God, with all due respect, does not care about the common man no matter how much faith they show. We are, as usual, left to take care of ourselves in times like this.
I will not ponder on this topic anymore.
I managed to see 3 movies over the week.

Cidade De Deus - This is a 2002 movie which has been inspired by real life incidences and an inspiration for Gangs Of Wassepur. The fact remains that Cidade De Deus is number 25 in the top 200 movies ever made. Enough Said. Oh sorry, the english title is City Of God.

Side Effects - Once again supposed to be Steven Soderberg's final directorial film. Interesting film based on the Depression Pills Lobby of USA.

Ghanchakar - Contrary to what the reviews say, this is a fun dark comedy with a good ending. Yes, even though Vidya Balan is married to the produces, she has a smooch and love Scene with Emran Hashmi. Everyone has acted well. And all i can say is, Maa, what big boobs does she have. :) Nice movie. Dont miss it.

Saturday was spent with Purav taking him out in the afternoon to buy him his toy cars and books. Slept for a bit and in the evening went out with a friend for a dinner at Chembur. While coming back i wanted to try the newly opened eastern freeway. I was amazed. I cover3ed a disatnce of nearly 30 kms, from Govandi Circle to Cafe Mocambo at Fort in just about 17 mins. And this is with just 1 way converted in to a 2 way. It would be awesome once the complete 4 lane roads will open for public.

Its Sunday afternoon now, and thankfully i have been doing nothing except lying in the bed and watching some TV. How i wish all days were like these. I am hoping to sleep very early today and wake up at 3:30 AM on a monday morning to See Brazil Vs Spain Confederations Cup Final in Brazil.

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Day 1284

The day has started with some very bad news. Got to know that my ex wife's father passed away last week on 13th due to Liver Cancer. Now i am sure many of you wonder why is it of any concern to me ?
Well when i come to know that someone i have known closely has passed away and that too in a non-natural death, it upsets me. Makes one think, really how short life really is and that (Not that its of any connection but still..) one must not have any enemity or grouse against anyone. I sincerely pray his soul rests in peace and that the family's grief is short but deep.
Its been raining unusually high for the month of June. For the first couple of weeks that have gone, except the north east part of India, everywhere else, the country has recieved 65% more rainfall than usual. Which is a good sign for the drough ridden areas but a nightmare for Urban Places because of the traffic chaos, bad roads and public transport going for a toss. Fortunately i live reasonably close to where i work so i have been enjoying the rains. Unfortunately that is a luxury for many people living in this city who only pray everyday(And i was one of them when i worked at Malad) that it doesnt rain or they reach late to office and reach late home after work.
Yes the flip side is that the weather has been awesome. There is something about rains that makes many of us become nostalgic, romantic, lazy(in a good way) and indulgeness in small things like having a hot cuppa or some light snacks. I say, whatever little time you get to enjoy these things or moments, enjoy them. As far as possible dont spend any time hating/cursing people, fighting with anyone etc. What is missing in this world is that people are not nice to other people. Yes, you may be good at heart (No one is  born bad really) but how many times can you honestly say that you have always been nice to people ? All the time?? Irrespestive of their nature towards you ???
Hence i would want everyone to first read this:-

And then read this (if you are on facebook)

Please keep in mind that i am not promoting or supporting any Spiritual Leader or Cult or faith or any religion.
What i find interesting, and wish everyone could give it a thought, is the idea behind forgiveness.

I happened to catch Man of Steel on Sunday. Now after The Dark Knight returns and The Avengers, this was a much awaited movie. And it was surprisng to see that people walked away towards the end. Yes the fight scene was overdone. Yes, the target audience felt disappointed (Was evident when my 3 year old nephew shouted to everyone's amusement "I don't like this movie."). But what one must understand that this movie was co-produced and co-written by Christopher Nolan. A person KNOWN to make dark movies and make movies in which superheros are vulnerable, depressed souls. And for showing that the common people refuse to accept anyone different in the so called "normal civilized" world and that superheros are no exceptions. So if you go with a mindset expecting an Avengers or Iron Man Kind of movie, you are going to be disappointed. Anyways Avengers, Iron Man, Spider man etc are Marvel and Batman, Superman are DC Comics. So the treatment IS going to be different. So in a nutshell I can say, only if you are a movie buff and have always watched all superhero movies, then go watch it.
Well, its raining extremely heavily so i guess i will just wind up the few emails that i have to send and get going home.
Today, definately, has been a rather upsetting day for me so i think i should just go home and take it easy.
See ya nice folks soon.

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Day 1279

Its been very interesting, last few days. I managed to see 4 movies over the last weekend. After work on friday, i saw Now you see me. Now this was an interesting multi-starcast movie which had moments. But i wish Jesse Eisenberg would be less irritating. His type of acting is getting monotonous. I caught up with an old school friend and a fellow movie buff - Dinshaw and saw Yamla Pagla Deewana 2. Now many would think it would be blasphemous for me to see that in a theatre. But Dinshaw is a fan of the Deol Family, specially Sunny Deol. And i have been a fan of films which stars All the deols together. And turned out that the movie wasnt as bad as i had expected it to be. We had a nice dinner at a bistro and some amazing dessert at Noorani. Talked quite a bit on a variety of topics, and none of it was movies. Sunday was spent going to my 2nd house for some work and then in the afternoon, Scrooge, Aarnav Dada, yourself and our an friday - Shyam went to see After Earth. Now clearly this is not the best work of Shyamalan who has not made a decent movie since Unbreakable over a decade back, but it is also not as bad as the reviews have made it out to be. I can say its like playing a video game like Super Mario Brothers.
I also finally managed to see Woody Allen's Bananas. And as the name suggested  - it was all of that.
The week and the week after that is going to be interested. My immediate manager has gone down under for  a couple of weeks. My company's country head was going to be there only for 3 days and he is travelling all over for business. So its just the 6 of us in office managing the entire show. One would think with bosses not around, it would be fun and party but its anything but that. Because you have to take certain decisions without anyone immediately supervising you and a decision wrong here and there could backfire. But fortunately its so far so good and no hassles and work going smooth.
Tuesday was the 61st birth day of dad. I really missed him quite a bit that day and even the days following it,
I could go on and on writing so many things about the great guy he was. But here's something i wrote which i would wanna share:-

For the man who wanted me to see Woodstock more than any other movie..
For the man who put the travel bug in me (I am quite close to beating your record)..
For the man who swam with me in an olympic size swimming pool when i was less than 2 years of age..
For the man who surprised me by telling some real dirty jokes  ..
For the man who gave Scrooge and me all the freedom in the world to do anything we wanted as long as we reported to work/school/college next working day..
For the person who drove 40 KMS in 45 minutes to ensure i get my Engineering Drawing Tools or else i would have flunked the exam 4th time..
For a person who was not a father but a DAD...
Wherever you are.....Happy Birthday Dad...!!!        

Here are a couple of pics of dad.. I never had a solo pic of dad except for some passport size pics so if anyone reading this blog ever knew him or has any pictures, please do share.

Now to something little different. I have noticed that for me, and i believe for quite a few, writing is therapeutic. Specially writing blogs. Its taken writing a personal diary to a totally different tangent.
Along with a well wisher / Supporter, we thought, why not share the whole blog writing experience with anyone who is keen to learn something new. Or perhaps an experienced blogger could share their inputs and make my small blog reachable to more audience and have a more interactive audience. We are planning to give a small presentation and just chat about blog writing. The writing part, the analytics part and generally about the whole writing experience.
We could have a small group of 4-5 people. Sit in a nice coffee shop / fine dine restaurant (Dont worry the treat's on me) on a nice saturday evening / sunday afternoon brunch. Sorry but you need to pay for your own drinks :-)
But if anyone is interested or anyone who knows anyone who is interested, please email me or leave a comment here and then once we get an audience of 4-5 people, we can take it from there and work out on a venue and a day and time.
Well, its quite a long piece of blog that i have written in a while.
I will now enjoy the rains and go off to sleep.
See you good folks tomorrow.